Yesterday my mother and I went shopping for a funeral dress. I announced two days ago that there had been a tragedy in the family and gave the reason I hadn’t posted in a while. In that post I said I was going to begin writing again, because I felt writing would heal me. When we were shopping for my funeral dress I figured maybe I could help people who were going through the same thing in my own way. When you go through a tragedy you don’t want to dwell on what you are going to wear, because all you can think about is the person you lost. So, I decided to write this post so you can just read this instead of spending your time searching the internet when you could be grieving.
You don’t always have to wear black. The deceased would want you to show up for the celebration of their life wearing a color that expresses you. Black is a usual color of mourning, but you can express your personality by wearing a color. Just don’t go too over the top with colors and wear a color that is too bold. If you are wearing a color I suggest going with subdued colors such as plum purple or royal blue. Hot pink or neon colors are a definite no-no.
Make sure the outfit is respectful. Everyone will be mourning and you don’t want to draw attention to yourself in the wrong way by wearing something people might consider scandalous. You might always wear mini skirts, but this isn’t the time or place for them. Also, fishnets and low cuts shirts aren’t right for this occasion. Dresses and skirts can be above the knee, but make sure your butt isn’t showing. The general rule is if it is breaking your school or work dress code than it wouldn’t be appropriate.
For the viewing wear flat shoes. For the viewing of the body you will be standing for awhile and will want to wear comfortable shoes. However, tennis shoes are disrespectful and casual flip-flops are just too casual. I am wearing ballet flats, because they are the perfect mix of comfortable and formal. I don’t suggest wearing heels for the viewing because you will be standing for hours and don’t want to have to excuse yourself because of your aching feet.
Wear waterproof mascara and wear light makeup. Now is not the time to experiment with your makeup, because you will probably be around family you haven’t seen in awhile. Also, when you undoubtedly cry you don’t want to have streaks of makeup coming on because you caked makeup on so much. Waterproof mascara is a bit of no brainer, but don’t forget because you don’t want to have smeared black lines crawling down your face.
And just don’t worry too much what people will think. While it is important to wear something respect you don’t want to dwell on it too much, because everyone will be too focused on their grief to notice your outfit unless it is really out there. It is difficult to see people after you have gone through something traumatic and you worry about putting off the right impression. However, as long as you follow my guidelines you will be set for your funeral. And don’t forget getting a funeral dress is a great excuse to go shopping.